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Poquoson High School


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Poquoson High School

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Poquoson High School

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Guide to Parent/Coach Communication

Guide for Parent/Coach Communication

Parent/Coach Relationship

Both parenting and coaching are extremely difficult vocations. By establishing an understanding of each role, we are able to communicate the benefits of extracurricular activities to children. As parents, when your children become involved in the Poquoson High School’s athletic program, you have a right to understand what expectations are placed on your child. This begins with clear communications from the coach.

Communications you should expect from the Coach

1. Philosophy of the coach.
2. Expectations the coach has for your child.
3. Locations and times of all practices and contests.
4. Team requirements, i.e. fees, special equipment off-season conditioning etc.
5. Procedure should your child be injured during participation.
6. Discipline that result in the denial of your child’s participation.

Communication Coaches expect from Parents

1. Concerns expressed directly to the coach.
2. Notification of any schedule conflicts as far in advance as possible.
3. Specific concern in regard to a coach’s philosophy and/or expectations.

As your child becomes involved in athletic programs at Poquoson High School, he/she will experience some of the most rewarding moments of his/her life. It is important to understand that there also may be times when things do not go the way you or your child wishes. At these times, discussion with the coach is encouraged.

If there is a perceived problem, try this

Talk with your child. Find out what the problem is. Have your child sleep on it. In the morning ask if there still is a problem. If so, encourage your child to speak with the coach. Our job is educational athletics. We need to teach our children to learn to deal with their own problems. Too often as parents, we like to try and solve the problem for our children. Nothing is learned from this. If this doesn’t resolve the problem, take the next step.

Concerns to Discuss

1. Ways to help your child improve.
2. Concerns about your child.
3. Academic support and college opportunities.

Items not to Discuss

1. Team strategy
2. Play calling
3. Other student-athletes

It is very difficult to accept your child not playing as much as you may hope. Coaches are professional. They make judgment decisions based on what they believe is best for all students involved. As you have seen from the list, certain things can be and should be discussed with your child’s coach. Other things must be left to the discretion of the coach. When speaking with coaches about your child, the conversation should be focused only on your child. Comparing him/her to other players is not productive. Parents should encourage their kids to advocate for themselves and to approach the coach to ask, “what do I need to do to earn more playing time?”

Procedure for setting up a Parent/Coach Meeting

There are situations that may require a conference between the coach and the parent. These are to be encouraged. It is important that both parties involved have a clear understanding of the other’s position. When these conferences are necessary, the following procedure should be used to help promote a resolution of the issue:

1. You must talk to the coach first. Call to set up an appointment with the coach. Please do not circumvent this step.
2. If the coach cannot be reached, call the athletic office at 868-7184. Someone will assist you in setting up the meeting.
3. Please do not attempt to confront a coach before or after a contest or practice. These can be emotional times for both the parent and the coach. Meetings of this nature do not promote resolution.

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